We don’t live in our little hometown anymore, we moved 2500 miles away 15 years ago and don’t regret doing so! But, we still have close friends living in that not so little anymore town. And everyone there still likes to spread the gossip like they are in high school! 

I love my husband and I love that he loves to have fun with the kids but, sometimes I could whack him with a smile! He was always looking for ways to have fun with the kids or something new to try. He didn’t like sitting at the house on the weekend with them, he wanted to be out doing things with them. 

Now, I’m going way to back 2005 but, I’ll never forget this week of our lives. We didn’t have a big wedding by any means, we got married in my mom’s little garden. Just us, my parents, grandmother and a few very close friends. We were actually late to our own wedding..together! HaHa. Our oldest was a little over a year old and she was napping so, we didn’t want to wake her. 

As soon as it all calms down and you start feeling like it’s going to be a drama free month….the other shoe hits the floor. I swear the ex-wife waited until she knew we had gone back to our “normal” lives to make another scene about something. It was always about something stupid or something so small the real world the rest of us lived in no one even noticed the “problem” but, she sure did. And she’d go on to make it into a mountain! 

Full honesty..I didn’t always keep my cool. I did work real hard to keep it out of the eyes/ears of the kids but, my poor husband definitely got a front row seat. I started a journal after about a year of dealing with bullshit, hoping that it would help get everything out instead of venting it all to my husband. It helped but it wasn’t enough because shit was happening 24 hrs a day. We literally never got a quiet moment for the first four/five years we were together. 

I’ve been asked why I am just now talking about all of this publicly, why have I not said anything in the past? Well, we have been screaming about all this for years in the courts and with Child Support Enforcement, I mean since 2006! We never went “public” with it because the kids were all underage and still living with the ex wife. And we saw them get the backlash of everything we did or didn’t do. I mean, my husband got an ear full if I smiled at her wrong..

Here’s the thing…Child Support and the courts will do everything they can to wear you done until you just give up and go away. In reality thats all they want, make your payments and go away. They don’t care that the ex doesn’t allow you to have contact with the kids as long as they are getting their money. PERIOD! The state of Florida gives no shits about the kids! Do some research and you’ll see it’s true. 

When we found out I was pregnant, I was so excited and nervous. I was 20, didn’t really want kids of my own at the time, I mean I was still out having a good time every weekend. The thought of having a child just wasn’t something I was ready for. I let it settle in for a couple weeks before I was ready to talk about it and tell my family. 

It’s been a long couple of weeks. Life has been busy getting our kids ready for the new school year (one going into 11th and one in her 2nd yr of college), my husband has been traveling for work, new court shit and the worst of all, we lost our Lucy Lou. She was our 12 year old Shar Pei. She was my baby, our youngest daughter’s best friend and the oldest daughter’s snuggle buddy. Lucy and the hubby tried to play off like they didn’t love each other but….they weren’t good at it. Hubby would grab an extra steak to put on the grill for Lucy or grab her treats anytime he saw wheat-free ones. He was a sucker for her! 

The day we got the news that we would soon have a new grand baby joining the family, was one of the best days ever! And we definitely weren’t expecting it! My (step) daughter had only graduated with her nursing degree a couple years before and was working during, ya know the “C” word of 2020. 

If you ask Child Support they will say that it is absolutely not possible for a woman/mother to double dip in the support system. However, I have proof that’s not true at all. If we hadn’t done a request for all the records from Child Support this year, we wouldn’t have proof that they admitted to this happening. 

Boundaries are needed in a lot of divorces/separations but, it’s extremely important to do so when either party moves on and gets into a new relationship! Whatever those boundaries are, understand that they will change and they will evolve with the situation. I suggest you have a conversation with your husband/boyfriend on what kind of boundaries you want to put into place before you start seeing issues with the ex. 

Our first daughter was born two months early. I went in for a usual baby appointment and a heart beat could not be found and her movements were very weak. I was on the monitors in my doctors office for another 30 mins before I was sent right over to labor and delivery to be induced. I was not ready. We didn’t even have her bassinet put together or my hospital bags packed. It was a hot mess of manic panic for me. Thank God for my soon to be husband (at the time) because I couldn’t even think straight. 

Now days we hear stories about  meeting on dating apps or friends setting friends up. High School sweethearts and life long friends falling in love. Our story is nothing like that, it’s the complete opposite and a little redneck-y! Ha Ha Ha

Todays blog is going to be about mediation with DOR and CSE. Now, Child Support Enforcement will tell you that the mediators used for mediation are all through a “third party”. I never would’ve guessed that! The way they automatically go on the side of CSE and the way they treat the NCP (My husband) in the cases just as CSE does, like shit, I definitely thought they worked directly for CSE!

I meet my husband in 2003, we dated for a couple months before I officially meet the kids. I was excited and nervous but, knew I was going to make this a fun meeting. We had planned it for a weekend he had the kids and I immediately went to Walmart to make sure the summer day didn’t get to hot! I got the biggest water guns I could find! I will never forget the look on their faces when I brought them out of my truck, they were surprised and I don’t think they believed me at first when I told them it was “Game time”. I even had water guns for my husband and I. No way was I going to let the three kids have fun without us. 

Today we are going to dive a little deeper into the fraudulent birth certificate my husband’s ex wife obtained and used to get a child support case against my husband for a child that does not biologically belong to him.In the state of Florida you can not change a birth certificate in anyway without a judge signed court order. Adoption can not happen without consent from both biological parents and it also has to be a court order signed by a judge. If you do not have a court order signed by a judge, you can not legally change anything on a birth certificate and if you do so, it becomes a fraudulent birth certificate. Using that fraudulent birth certificate after that for Anything it then becomes fraud. There are Florida State Statutes on this. 

This will be a long one but, stick with me. It’s worth the read, it’s all backed by facts, proof and some of the proof comes from two State of Florida agencies themselves!! The state of Florida legal system and child support enforcement system is a joke! We have been fighting it since 2006. During my husband’s divorce his step-daughter was listed as a child of the marriage, she was not. In the final order she was listed as a child receiving child support, all proven by child support themselves.