I’ve been asked why I am just now talking about all of this publicly, why have I not said anything in the past? Well, we have been screaming about all this for years in the courts and with Child Support Enforcement, I mean since 2006! We never went “public” with it because the kids were all underage and still living with the ex wife. And we saw them get the backlash of everything we did or didn’t do. I mean, my husband got an ear full if I smiled at her wrong..
Now, we screamed about this to the courts, every judge we went in front of and every single time my husband or I had to speak to Child Support Enforcement it was mentioned. We filed motion after motion and went to mediation after mediation..it was ignored and shut down every single time we tried to bring it up. We were told over and over that my husband was not paying support for this child that was not biologically his. We were told that it was a waste of time for him to continue to fight this because “It’s not possible that he is paying for this child.”
Every move we made or didn’t make that pissed off the ex wife, the kids got the heat. We saw it and heard about it. We literally walked on eggshells when we got to see the kids because we knew if anything happened that the ex wife didn’t approve, the kids would get all the backlash as soon as they got home. We got the oldest kid makeup for a birthday one year and holy shit…you would have thought we took her to get a tattoo at the age of 12. The ex threw it all away. It was ridiculous!
I will never forget when my husband asked for the kids one weekend that wasn’t his because we had plans with my family and she said “Of course”. But, then he gets a call from the oldest just hours before we were supposed to pick them up and she is in tears. Apparently, the ex had lost her shit after she had told my husband she was “ok” and it wasn’t going to be a problem to have them for the weekend..all because the kids would be around my family. My family that has loved the kids like they are blood, has treated them like they have always been apart of their family and has loved being able to be apart of their lives.
So, we were scared to speak out, to go “public” like this because we knew the kids would be the ones that got the shit end of the deal. But, the kids are all grown and are no longer under her roof. She can’t do anything to them that will effect them. The middle kid has been NO contact with her for over ten years now, we believe the oldest is also still no contact with her and the youngest is old enough to not have to deal with her.
Unfortunately, we saw what the backlash did to the kids. We heard about the hissy fits she threw, the things she would say to the kids about us and the things she would blame on the kids. She called the Department of Children and Families making false claims against us at every turn. We had a handful of case workers show up at our door at least six times in a matter of eight months or so. All of the cases she called in were closed Unfounded but, it was a hassle having to deal with bullshit. And I’m not even going to get into the restraining orders, one after another for like three years. All dismissed!
So, I am going public with all of this because my husband was treated like a second class citizen and the State of Florida allowed her to get away with fraud. Child Support Enforcement I believe even helped her. By the way the Florida State Statute reads, Child Support Enforcement committed fraud. She committed fraud and continued doing so every time she used that fraudulent birth certificate she signed my husband’s name to.
I am going public because this while thing is bullshit and we are tired of being ignored! We are tired of hearing stories about how the fathers get treated in the courts and with Child Support Enforcement.
I look at it like this, if the State of Florida allowed her to get away with this, how many other woman have done this to other fathers? How many fathers are paying for a child that does not biologically belong to them? How many other fathers have a child that is not biologically theirs walking around with a fraudulent birth certificate because the State of Florida can’t follow their own Laws and State Statutes?
I will not shut up until we get answers and someone has to be held accountable for what they allowed the ex to get away with!!
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