Now, I’m going way to back 2005 but, I’ll never forget this week of our lives. We didn’t have a big wedding by any means, we got married in my mom’s little garden. Just us, my parents, grandmother and a few very close friends. We were actually late to our own wedding..together! HaHa. Our oldest was a little over a year old and she was napping so, we didn’t want to wake her.
We hadn’t told the ex-wife out right that we were getting married that day but, she knew we had plans to get married at some point. At the time seeing the kids was not happening. She literally would throw a fit like a two yr old who had her lollipop taken if we happen to run into her and the kids anywhere. She would start yelling and cussing like a mad woman in the middle of Walmart if we saw them. It was ridiculous and extremely embarrassing. The oldest two would try to hide because they didn’t want to be seen with her acting like that and the youngest would be as quiet as possible and sometimes start crying. It was awful watching it unfold and seeing what it was doing to the kids.
We made it through the day without any ridiculousness, Thankfully! However, that didn’t last long. We had barley made it to our hotel when she started blowing up my husband’s phone. Absolutely losing it. We aren’t even sure how she found out we had gotten married, there wasn’t open communication with her at that point. We had been fighting in court to see the kids, she had cut off all communication between them and their dad. She would call to cuss him out and scream at him but, that was about it. He couldn’t get a word in when she called to yell at him. And she absolutely refused to allow him to see or talk to his kids.
His phone went off every 30 mins or so for the rest of the night and into the next day. He finally answered and told her that we were on our honeymoon and if it wasn’t an emergency with the kids that he didn’t plan on talking to her. She LOST it! Started crying, screaming and demanding that he tell her we didn’t actually get married….”so, it’s over. It’s really actually over!”. He didn’t know what to say, he was at a loss of words. I mean, we had been living with each other for two yrs, had a daughter together and made it clear we were getting married. She was living with another man and had been long before I even came into the picture.
We were both so confused! How in the world did she think things were going to go? Did she think he was going to kick me out and go back to her? I don’t understand it. I guess I never will. To even ask that question she had to think that at some point they would get back together….This wasn’t the first time she had acted like this. She also did this while I was in labor with our first child. About a year before this narcissistic freak out. So, my husband had had a conversation, I say conversation lightly it was a yelling match on her end and just a shut-down on my husband’s end.
Hubby had told her more than once that they were in fact 100% over. There would never be a chance in hell of them ever getting back together, she had made her bed and she now had to lay in it. He had moved on, was happy and she had better find away to deal with that because it wasn’t changing. He even told her it didn’t matter if it was me or another woman, they were most definitely over for ever!
After the phone call, him telling her it was definitely over and had been for years, she quit calling. We enjoyed an amazing Italian dinner at a quiet little momma/poppa restaurant on the Island and then we watched the beautiful sunset on the beach. We ordered breakfast in bed the next morning and then spent the day on the beach.
We went on to enjoy the next four days and had an absolute wonderful time. We got some shopping done, ate some amazingly tasty food and really enjoyed being husband and wife for the first time. It was hard to leave and head home but, man did we miss out daughter. She was in good hands but, it was still hard being away from her for the first time and for a whole five days.
The ex wives ridiculousness continued for a few more weeks….then the restraining orders started. One after another till she found a judge to make one stick!
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