As soon as it all calms down and you start feeling like it’s going to be a drama free month….the other shoe hits the floor. I swear the ex-wife waited until she knew we had gone back to our “normal” lives to make another scene about something. It was always about something stupid or something so small the real world the rest of us lived in no one even noticed the “problem” but, she sure did. And she’d go on to make it into a mountain!
I remember it had been quite for a couple of months in the middle of 2007 when she started shit over me not acknowledging her out in public one day. Like, I literally didn’t stop what I was doing to go talk to her. First off, I was not speaking to her. Second, I wouldn’t even look at her unless I had someone with me as a witness because she absolutely can’t be trusted and Third…she couldn’t be fucking serious!?! She was absolutely serious, with her whole chest serious that I didn’t acknowledge her! Called my husband at work to cuss him out because I didn’t speak to her like we were besties!
Bitch! I hate you and you hate me. It’s seriously just That simple! We then slid into 2008 with this attitude of hers chasing after us. Until the day came she actually needed us! Her oldest child ran away from home and she said she could no longer handle her. She refused to pick-up the kid in the county over. So, she called my husband throwing a fit and saying that if he wasn’t willing to go pick her up, she’d let the state have the kid. She was “over her bullshit. I can’t fucking take it anymore”.
So, with that we got up around midnight, I was four months pregnant with our second child and drove about two hours to the next county over to pick her up. This is the kid that does not biologically belong to my husband. The kid he was not technically responsible for. But, he jumped up anyways….We get to the house she is at and the mother of her friend tried to tell me that we couldn’t have the kid, she was refusing to let her leave with us and she even tried to lie saying she wasn’t there. My pregnant hormones go off…Let’s just say I almost went to jail that night. She lived with us for the next year.
It was not quite for a long time after that….
It was constant phone calls, constant demands of how we needed to live in our house with our kids and our rules. Weekend drops offs/pick-ups could be a complete nightmare. The kid didn’t want to go to her mothers for the weekend for the first couple of months because of the fighting that would go on between them. Then it was fights in our house after her weekends with her mother because she would come home with an attitude from hell. Or the tiny shorts and skirts mom bought her that she thought she could walk out of our house wearing….wrong!
And while all this is going on, the ex-wife all of sudden decided it was ok for my husband to start seeing his kids again. Surprise! I think she knew if she didn’t we would be going back to court and we had a leg to stand on considering she willingly gave custody of the oldest to the man she had been screaming was an abuser.
We had custody for a year, during that time the ex-wife went to Child Support Enforcement and asked them to give my husband a credit in support payments because we had custody of the kid. Now, if you remember CSE and the ex-wife had sworn for years my husband wasn’t paying support on this kid….If that was true how could my husband get a credit for support payments for a child they all swore he wasn’t even paying for?!
The end of 2008 the ex-wife moved to NY with the two younger kids and the oldest stayed behind. She stayed with us for a while and then decided she wanted to go live with the ex-wife’s step-dad. That didn’t last long, we got a call to go get her one night after her and her grandfather got into a huge fight. It was mess.
Not long after they moved to NY, all communication with the kids stopped! I mean, the ex-wife changed her phone number, hide her address and refused to allow any contact whatsoever between the kids and my husband! That went on for years, until the middle kid moved out at 16 and reached out to her dad in 2014!
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