You know what pisses off a narcissist….when they don’t get the response they crave so much! As a narcissist, they will constantly do things to get a reaction out of you. Weather it is spewing drama all over social media or talking shit about you to other people in the town you grew up in.
This is something I’ve dealt with for 20 years now. Unfortunately, years ago I would give her the reactions she craved because I couldn’t keep my emotions in check. She would say something and I’d let my emotions win when I responded to her. Once she realized I’d give her the attention and reaction she wanted, she’d do it constantly! She would talk shit about me to the kids at first, said I ruined her marriage. As the kids got older and started seeing her lies for what they were, they stopped telling me or their dad about it.
I’m fixing to age myself but, do you remember MySpace?! Jesus did she use that as her “weapon” of choice when it came to her running her mouth and spreading the rumors. I still have screenshots/print screens of the messages and shit she would say. Remember how you could send “anonymous” messages to someone on their wall, yea I have about 50 of them from her. It was flat ridiculous! She definitely showed her jealousy! She still does!
We had another hearing last week and it didn’t end as we had hoped, thats fine, we aren’t done fighting for what’s right! But, she made the comment to the magistrate “He still has our wedding ring set”. I haven’t laughed that hard in a long time! I literally had tears running down my face and couldn’t catch my breath when I listened to the recording! She couldn’t be for real…but, she was! I think part of it was the thought that he had kept it for over 20 years. However, she forgot she tried to get me to take that set more than once. And more than once I told her no fucking way! My husband told her the same thing a few times. I believe, she even sent it with the kids one weekend. Or she had the oldest try to convince me too take them. I don’t remember exactly but, she tried for about a year before she finally gave up.
I made a post about the wedding ring set on Facebook because, I seriously find it fucking hilarious! Well, she lost her shit and went on a rant session on Facebook. I didn’t give her the response she so desperately wanted so, she took a low blow at my husband in regards to his brother who passed over two decades ago. I made a simple post stating to be Very Very careful bringing up the death of a brother into her delusional bullshit. That was it.
And….she fucking lost it. Making post’s with 20 ridiculous emojis and calling me a “cunt”. Yea, because thats gonna hurt my feeling. HAHAHA. Claiming I was “big mad” because we didn’t get what we’ve been fighting for in our court hearing last week. I still didn’t respond! I didn’t feel like I needed to after her rant. She fully admitted to hiring a Private Investigator, called me names like she’s in high school and made herself look very jealous and sad! She’s in her 50s for fuck sake!
Now, from what I’ve been told she has deleted or de-activated her Facebook but, continues to talk shit in my home town. I mean my name comes up at tables I have never sat at more than my names does at tables I have sat at! I have friends of friends reaching out telling me she can’t shut the fuck up about me. I’m a “home wrecker”, I turned her daughters against her and I ruined her “happy” marriage. The marriage that she stepped out on and was living with that man when I meet my husband!
Yes, I started this blog and I have made plenty of public post on Facebook about what we’ve been through and what we have been fighting for since 2006. And until she is held accountable for the fraud she has committed in Florida through Child Support Enforcement and Vital Statistics, I will not shut up. However, I have done all of that without name calling, without losing my shit and ranting for 24 hours all over social media looking like a jealous fool in high school!
So, take it from someone with experience..do not give the narcissist what they crave! Do not let your emotions get the best of you when responding to them. And make sure to keep a cool head when/if you do respond. They want you to get emotional, upset and let your anger towards them show. Doing that, won’t change anything, they won’t stop being a narcissist because you let your emotions get out of hand. It’s not worth it to let them get the best of your emotions. They are not worth your emotions!
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